You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore

When my sweet friend and editor, Allison, asked me to write this column over a year ago, I said yes immediately. A few days later I thought, 'Oh crap! What have I gotten myself into?'

Hey Stranger! I'm proud of you!

I did it! I completed 26.2 miles! Some of it was not pretty, but it is finished and in the record books! It was somewhere between mile 20 and 26 (they all sort of blend together in my memory) that I saw someone standing in the crowd with a sign that read, "Hey Stranger! I'm proud of you!" It almost stopped me dead in my tracks.

Before an event like a marathon, there are people who tell you that "you can do it.” After the event I received a lot of "I knew you could do it." But really, I need what we all need. I want someone to be proud of me and say it out loud.

Growing Pains: Back to Work, 11 Years Later

You know, this whole working thing kinda stinks. Don't get me wrong! I love my job. My co-workers are great! We have so much fun in our library! If you are connected to me on Twitter or Facebook, you would have seen a picture or two of me planking in our library.

Inspired Spouse
Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out. - Coach John Wooden

Deployment Soundtrack: Beautiful Day
Beautiful Day

U2, 2001

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So you know I have been training for my first marathon. You know that I have been considering going back to work. What you may not know is that after the last job search fiasco, I had basically decided not to look for work until after the marathon was over in late October. But I still check the job posting websites for the U.S. government and our local school district.

Deployment Soundtrack: Miss Movin On
Miss Movin On

Fifth Harmony, 2013

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I'll never be that girl again, no

I'll never be that girl again, no

My innocence is wearing thin but

Deployment Soundtrack: Talk Talk
Talk, Talk

Talk Talk, 1982

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I have been struggling with "Mommy Guilt." Have you ever had that? For me, it is the horrible feeling I get when I make what I feel is the right decision for my children but then I worry that it is the wrong decision.

Deployment Soundtrack: Had a Bad Day
You Had a Bad Day

Daniel Powter, 2005

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So, today happened.

It started out as a great day! Everyone got up on time. We got out the door on time. No one forgot anything. I dropped everyone off at their respective camps. I went for my three-mile run that my training plan dictated for today.

Then, it all began to unravel.

Deployment Soundtrack: Friends

Elton John, 1971

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One of the things that I have learned in my 11 years as an Army Wife is how to embrace friendships. Our family has moved five times in those 11 years. The most time we have spent at a duty station was four and a half years. The least amount of time spent at a duty station was one year.

Deployment Soundtrack: My Wish
My Wish

Rascal Flatts, 2006

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I hope the days come easy and the moments pass slow

And each road leads you where you want to go

And if you're faced with the choice and you have to choose


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